Do you want to be dominated/used/abused?

Man in Swadlincote, East Midlands, UK

Joined: over a year ago
Last on: 3 weeks ago

READ MY PROFILE: MESSAGES THAT DON'T COMPLY WILL NOT BE RESPONDED TOO

I get hundreds of people messaging that don't comply asking to be a sub - the first stage of your submission is TO COMPLY WITH WHAT THE PROFILE SAYS. Got it?

DO NOT APPROACH ME IF YOU HAVE NO WAY OF ACCOMODATING

I am a dominant male who's interest is in men or TV's who wish to dominated/used/abused.

I don't get a kick out of the sex - I get my kick from the sub being totally under my control. Yes my control. Once we've agreed whats on the menu then what actual happens - or doesn't from the menu is totally my choice. So you may or may not get to cum.

A subs job and role is to agree up front boundaries and then when we meet to do what they have agreed to. If this isn't what you want and you are a pathetic sub that thinks its a good idea to try and control what the Dom does during the session - then don't contact me.

I am happy to what might be called introductory BDSM ie. just above vanilla but equally I am totally happy and able to go to some quite extreme extremes.

Before meeting we will of course discuss your hard limits (Marks for example). It is essential that you tell me honestly what your hard limits are as if something wasn't stated as a hard limit then you may inadvertently find yourself experiencing it! Also if you have limited experience in pain or some other area do not make out you have more than you have. I will take you at your word. So for example if I ask have you ever experienced nettles don't say yes if you haven't - these things must be discussed and agreed.

Yes I can perform bondage on you

Yes I can use my riding crop on you mercilessly.

Yes I can cause you pain

Yes I can make you receive water sports.

Yes I can you and make you scream

Yes I can spit on you and in your mouth

Yes I can take you to a wood and tie you to a tree or make you all messy!

You are there for my pleasure so if you are told to lick my ass you will. (if within boundaries). Equally if I fancy sucking you then I will.

If you want me to mark you - thats fine.

Basically my only limits are that I will not agree to inflict permanent harm to you, I will not do anything illegal and you will NOT be under the influence of anything.

You should also be aware that my cock will NOT be fucking your ass either with or without a condom. So if thats what you want look elsewhere. I will of course use any of your toys on you and use my gloved hand to you or/and massage your prostate! (Douching essential of course).

I am NOT interested in changing your nappy or SCAT. Nor Infantilism.

I don't accept friend requests from people I've never even interacted with! I will send one if I want to.

I don't accommodate so don't ask.

I will visit you at a place of your choosing.

We can meet up in a wood near Swadlincote `(but only when its warm and not raining).

I tend to only be available weekdays during the day so don't make contact if this is no good for you.

Remember a good sub reads and understands and follows instructions.

I trust the above explains what I am offering and what you will experience.

Why have I no photo? Well that's surely partly explained by the usesername. But equally I'm looking for a sub who wishes to serve a Dom - why should what I look like be of concern to you!

I will assure you that am not a total minga, I am the age I have put, I will be clean and fresh. I of course expect the same from you!

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To prove that you have read this profile insert this as the title. "I AM YOURS".

(Or "WE ARE YOURS" if you are couple)

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I look forward to recievng your application to serve and to be used and abused. This means that your message to me should say how you will serve me and how you will please me eg. The things you are prepared to do (whether you like them or not) and not do. I am NOT here to be given a list of things you want me to do to you. This totally misunderstands the relationship that will exist.

Also I will only travel locally 30 minutes maximum. So Nottingham or Leicester is too far. Thanks to all the Nottingham and Leicester guys who approach me but unfortunately I don't travel that far. (No need - I'm getting so much local interest!

Added after just recieving a message from a sub who said he'd read my profile but didn't include the correct subject and also was in LONDON! London is further than Nothingham or Leicester from me. I do NOT arrange meets with people from London - as I say it's too far. Subs take note - NOT reading and complying with this profile will get a curt response. Obedience is after all a rather basic thing for a sub to be able to do!

(Now its a message from a Sub in Doncaster - OK ... Doncaster's too far as are the following places: Buxton, London, Nottingham, Coventry, Bakewell, Carnoustie - Scotland (I'll add as people message me from them - nice to be popular!)

Now a guy who read the above, knew he was in Buxton - Derbyshire! But still thought after reading this that I may make an exception for him and relax my rule for him. Firstly - why would I relax a rule for a sub who can't read, understand and understand simple statements! Second I don't know him from Adam. Third the wants and desires are of no real interest to me and thinking he is special enough for me to want to relax the rule is just delusional and narcissistic! I made the mistake of not checking at first message so wasted a whole morning! By the way he's now messaged me to tell me that he isn't in Buxton but is in Bakewell (has his profile stating only Derbyshire) - then tells me that 30 minutes isn't long enough to travel for a "good" sub - well anyone else see the irony in that comment. (Can't believe he took the time to read my profile again and then right back!) Anyway he's wrong - there are plenty of extremely excellent subs within 30 minutes of Swadlincote! I'm only including this so that others may learn from it - Dom or sub alike!)

GOT TO SHARE THIS ONE - REALLY MADE ME LAUGH -When is Swadlincote 30 minutes from Carnoustie, Scotland, UK? When it's In the head of a self identifying sub who obviously has no sense of reality! (or ability to read or use google maps!) lol

If you write "I live alone so u can come over whenever u fancy it" don't be offended if I write back asking if you work! (I'm assuming that you offering yourself to be available to me a drop of a hat and on any day at any time.

The 30 minute thing is flexible to a point its just that practically meeting with someone further away is not practical for me. Unless you can change the laws of physics this is fixed!

Of course if you wanted to serve me in a hotel room near Swadlincote at your expense then thats fine too.

Oh and it doesn't solve the problem saying you're happy to meet outdoors or in a wood in Winter! You may like your balls freezing off but I don't.

I do hope this makes things absolutely clear.

Beware that if you do contact me not having understood this rule I may just decide to make an exception for you - but I guarantee you won't like the punishment that you have requested by doing so - see Dr Lomp.

I do hope this is now crystal clear!

Just for the record just because someone performs oral doesn't make them a sub.

Just because someone uses their cock to fuck someones arse doesn't make them Dom.

Giver and receiver best describes this.

A top is usually someone that does the fucking but this does not automatically make the person a dominant.

A bottom is usually someone that has their ass fucked but this doesn't mean they are Sub.

A versatile person is someone who enjoys receiving cock and giving cock.

A dominant is someone who is sexually excited by controlling the other person (the sub)

A Sub is someone is who is submissive and is sexually aroused by submitting to the control of others.

The above terms are not mutually exclusive. But they are all examples of the Power Exchange Fetish.

Master and the sl@ve role plays are where the Master has total control over the other and the other is effectively owned by the Master and is treated as a piece of property - some practice this willingly 24/7 but some only do this for the duration of the session.

Of course some people just like pain and this doesn't make them necessarily sub.

BDSM stands for:

B- Bondage (i.e.. being tied up, restrained)

D - discipline or Domination

S - Sadism or Submission

M - Masochism.

Just because a person gets sexually aroused by sucking cock doesn't mean they are into BDSM.

WS Stands for Water Sports - which can mean anything from a person being turned on by being pissed on there hands to being pissed on their body, hair, head, face, mouth, in their mouth and also swallowing.

I do hope this clears up some of the terms that are used for new, inexperienced people and the bicurious newcomers. I had thought the terms we're self evident and if they weren't that people would just look them up on the Urban Dictionary. But I have become aware that actually this is not the case.

Well anyone who reads my profile and messages will be aware - so don't make the mistake of contacting me without out understanding first what the basic terms mean.

Do NOTE that I may be more extreme than others you have met. I don't consider myself to be extreme - I just do what is agreed and yes that may include the more extreme things if they have been discussed.

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FIRST MESSAGE MUST CONTAIN ALL OF THE FOLLOWING

Message Title: I AM YOURS

Refer to me as Sir

DO NOT INCLUDE ANY REQUESTS.

A little about you (thats not in your profile)

Confirm you can accommodate

Confirm when you are generally available and that this includes weekdays during the day.

What things are hard limits - off menu

What things are on the menu that you like

What things are on the menu that you don't particularly like but will take part in.

If you are wanting impact play then do include info about marks.

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DomEnigma586

Dom Enigma

59 years old, Bisexual

5'11" 180cm
Average
Non smoker
Don't drink
No tattoos
No piercings
Size: Average
Role: Top
Caucasian (white)

Looking For

Men TV/TS
Aged from 18 to 99
Will meet smokers

Meeting

Cannot accommodate
Can travel

Interests

1 on 1, Anal, Bears, Cubs, Fur, Group sex, Kissing, Oral, Rimming, S&M, Safe sex, Shaved, Wanking

Verified Genuine Profile

*NP1961 (62), Man on 30 November 2022 by Meeting in person:
Wow, what an unexpected surprise. After a nervous start on my part, things quickly settled down to a fabulous, red hot session. My arse received a great thrashing which has left me having trouble sitting down. Just how I like it to feel.

*ub_Slut_4U (50), Man on 11 April 2022 by Meeting in person:
Another great meet, nicely dominant, but respectful. Hope to meet again soon.

*shby10 (61), Man on 15 December 2021 by Meeting in person:
A Dom guy who likes to let you know he is in control, but he respectful polite genuine and most of all reliable.

*ub_Slut_4U (50), Man on 7 December 2021 by Meeting in person:
Prompt arrival, and definitely dominant. Will hope to meet again

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